What Men Wish You Knew: The 40 Rules to Attract a Man and Keep Him (Dating Advice For Women) by Jarred Jameson

Author:Jarred Jameson [Jameson, Jarred]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: UNKNOWN
Published: 2019-11-12T00:00:00+00:00

RULE EIGHTEEN

We Check Out Other Women

Okay, so there is something that we men do that drives women absolutely crazy. And really, you cannot be blamed for hitting the roof when it happens. In fact, we know that this action is likely to land us in trouble and, even though we don’t want to hurt you, we still do it from time to time. It is impossible to prevent it from happening 100 percent of the time.

It is when we look at other women.

So, you’re sitting in a coffee shop having a quiet drink with your boyfriend or a guy you have started dating, and you notice to your horror that an attractive woman in a skin-tight dress has just walked by and your man cannot take his eyes off her. After a minute, he pulls his eyes away and looks back at you and sees that you are, let’s say, annoyed. He gives you an embarrassed smile but doesn’t seem to care all that much just how much he has disrespected you. So, what’s going on? Why did he do that? Are all men totally insensitive jerks? The answer is no.

The truth is, looking at attractive women is a kind of reflex action for men. There is some science behind this statement. Looking at attractive women when we were teenagers released brain chemicals that made us feel good — namely dopamine and serotonin. That’s just how puberty works. Those same neurological pathways are there to a certain degree in adulthood, although not quite as strong as they used to be, and so it can be considered natural (though no doubt bad manners!) to look at attractive women. The science says that men are subconsciously assessing women as mating options and looking for health cues such as facial symmetry and hip-to-waist ratio for childbearing.

Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you will have to live with this primal behavior for your entire life. We understand that it hurts you. We understand that it makes you feel jealous but, to an extent at least, we are not doing it on purpose. A decent guy certainly will attempt to avoid looking at other women when out with his significant other. We will try to control this propensity so that we do not hurt the woman we are with.

Unfortunately, this is a continual struggle. It is not just a psychological remnant from our teenage years, it is also a behavior constantly being reinforced every time we watch television, read a magazine or view an online video. When advertisers want men to pay attention to something, they use attractive women. Think of all the beer commercials that you’ve seen. How many of them featured attractive women? Advertisers know this is something men struggle with, and therefore they try to stimulate that chemical release mechanism with attractive women — usually wearing as little clothing as possible. They want the attractive woman to release the happy hormones which are then linked to the product. The theory being that

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